Wish you were here: Postcards in cyber-space

It’s a sign of the times that we’ve just spent the weekend in Vermont celebrating the union of a Jewish friend who works for the Huffington Post with a non-Jewish friend who works for Facebook married by a gay rabbi who conducted the wedding ceremony with an iPad.

Though I’ll always remember our own wedding as the best wedding ever, my friends Matt and Dana may have set a record for corralling the largest number of the most interesting and attractive people in the U.S. And they gathered all these folks together in idyllic Pittsfield, Vermont in a converted barn at Riverside Farm, and mixed it up with a non-stop stream of booze and an outrageously talented band who covered everything from The Jackson Five to Katy Perry with a flare that had everyone, young and old, out of their seats, kicking off their shoes and raising the roof like they’d just been told this was their last chance to dance ever.

And to think this wedding almost didn’t happen because of Hurricane Sandy. Last year’s devastation in Vermont at the hands of Hurricane Irene was fresh in everyone’s minds in the week running up to the wedding while we waited and wondered what would become of Vermont this year. At the time, Ryan and I hadn’t even booked our plane tickets because we couldn’t be sure until the last minute which airport we would fly out of or where we would be after the hurricane passed. In the end, we booked a flight out of Norfolk, Virginia, giving ourselves a deadline, which is always a worry when traveling by boat. But a deadline it was, so we pulled on our thermals and our winter hats and we motor-sailed like maniacs into the blistering wind for two days to get to a marina that would keep Hideaway and our cats safe while we took off for the green mountains.

I can tell you it didn’t take me long to adapt to land life again, especially since we were now indoors and enjoying the grossly underrated luxury of heat. Plus, I finally got to put on my running shoes and literally take off for the hills, which came in handy for sweating out some of my morning hangovers and lifting my mood (sailing in arctic temperatures + not getting off the boat for a week = grumpy Tasha).

My only concern then was how to answer the inevitable conversation starter, “Where do you live?” since we’d be mingling with lots of strangers. But as it turned out, this wasn’t a concern, as we were not unusual in this internationally savvy wedding crowd. No one even batted an eyelid when I said, “We live on a sailboat” or “We’re on our way to the Bahamas.” In fact, we found new friends in amazing couples of all ages, some of whom were sailors themselves, or travelers, or had quit their desk jobs to become snowboarding instructors, or did any number of fascinating things that fueled stimulating conversation for hours.

So, while I reunited with some good old college friends, Ryan and I also made some great new friends who we hope to keep in touch with and maybe even meet again one day when they themselves sail to the Caribbean or when we go up to Vermont to do some skiing.

And though you would think it’s hard to maintain friendships when you’re constantly on the move, to some degree we’ve always had to do it because we’ve always been on the move, traveling for work or pleasure and relocating to new cities or countries every few years, just like many of our friends. Which I guess is also a sign of these modern times, that people are traveling more and living farther away from their families and friends than they used to. Thankfully, the computer geniuses of the world keep developing new ways to help people like me keep in touch with their ever-growing network of international friends.

But Facebook can only do so much to maintain a friendship. Nothing holds a candle to good old-fashioned quality time hanging out with friends, which is one reason I love going to weddings. Not only are weddings the most joyous of celebrations, they’re also great opportunities to rekindle old friendships and meet new and interesting people I never would have met if my friends hadn’t brought us together.

So, even if I have to fight off a hurricane to traverse both land and sea by boat, plane, train and automobile to get to a friend’s wedding, I’ll always make the effort. And I have no doubt that I’ll be reunited with some of our friends as we sail south. Because just as a destination wedding is a great excuse to book a vacation, so is having a friend in the Bahamas!

Riverside Farm – Pittsfield, Vermont

Dana, walking down the aisle with Mr. and Mrs. Kalish

Dana and Matt, under the chuppah.

Me and Ryan at Dana and Matt’s wedding.

Happy Halloween from somewhere in Virginia

I know it’s Halloween and all, but truth be told, the only scary thing here in Mill Creek is the temperature and the language coming out of my mouth. Ryan’s been listening to me grumble a stream of expletives through my scarves all day to the tune of: “I haven’t been this flipping cold for this long since I was a Peace Corps volunteer in the Russian-flipping-Far-East!” or “When we set off for the frigging Bahamas, I thought I’d be wearing a bikini by now!” Or the imaginable equivalent.

The problem is that we’ve been holed up inside our boat, freezing and wet, for five days and then I woke up this morning in 3 layers of clothing, a ski hat, knee socks, to realize we’ve been in the Solomon Islands for five days now and we haven’t seen anything other than the inside of our boat, thanks to Hurricane Sandy. And now we are leaving because we can’t bear to stay a minute longer.

So, I am a bit grumbly, to say the least, even though I know I should be elated and grateful that we didn’t suffer the effects of Hurricane Sandy the way many others did and still are. But I do have a tendency to be selfish when I am cold. I blame Russia.

Either way, there was no time for wallowing – we had work to do putting our sails back up and getting Hideaway back to her pre-hurricane condition. And as exhausting and cold as it all was, once we get out on the Chesapeake Bay, it just felt good to be moving again. With 18-knot winds, we were able to shut down the engine, sail at a smooth 6.5 knots and hear nothing but the sound of water rushing along the hull.

Ryan putting up sails after Hurricane Sandy - Solomons Island, MD

Ryan putting up sails after Hurricane Sandy – Solomons Island, MD.

Hideaway sailing in the Chesapeake Bay

Hideaway sailing in the Chesapeake Bay.

But then we lost our wind, the sun went behind the clouds, and we were motoring like mad through the Chesapeake in a dash to get to Norfolk, Virginia before Thursday night – after all, we have a flight to catch to Vermont on Friday morning for our friends’ wedding.

Every sailor knows that land schedules do not jive with sail plans. But we made this plan and we are sticking to it, even if it means additional stress. I guess you could say we haven’t quite gotten Manhattan out of our system yet.

The plan was to get to Fleet’s Bay, Virginia, by the end of today, still giving us a fairly long haul to Norfolk on Thursday. But as it happened, we didn’t quite make it to Fleet’s Bay before sunset, so we have pulled off into the Great Wicomico River to anchor in Mill Creek for the night, which means an even earlier start on Thursday morning.

Hideaway at sunset in Mill Creek, Va.

Hideaway at sunset in Mill Creek, VA.

I was still swearing like a well-trained sailor when we pulled into Mill Creek, since it had gotten progressively colder throughout the day. But just as we dropped anchor in the middle of nowhere in Virginia, the setting sun splayed a grenadine shadow on the water and trees around us, and the air became supremely still.

There was nothing else around us except a few private homes and docks, some birds and one other anchored sailboat. As frozen as my face was, I couldn’t help but look around and smile…just before I ducked down below to turn our portable gas stove into a personal hand warmer.

No doubt, in the morning, I’ll be swearing my head off again through my scarves and ski muffs on the way to Norfolk, Virginia, and I’ll forget momentarily…that it’s the small moments like this that make it all worthwhile.

One thing I can for sure is it’s still way better than a day at the office.

Sunset on Mill Creek, the Great Wicomico River, Virginia.

Sunset on Mill Creek, the Great Wicomico River, Virginia.

Hurricane Sandy: Praying for a safe harbor for all

I’ve been avoiding checking the news of Hurricane Sandy because I don’t want to get freaked out by the horror stories while I’m waiting out this storm on our boat at Zahniser’s Yachting Center. I already caught word of the HMS Bounty sinking off Cape Hatteras, attempting to outrun the storm. My only hope is that all the other boaters out there got themselves to safe harbor in time.

It turns out being on board your boat during a hurricane is equal parts fun, terrifying and boring.

The terrifying part didn’t start until today, when the winds started whipping up to gusts of 45-50 knots, which had the effect of whipping our boat around on its mooring like a chew toy in a dog’s mouth. Meanwhile, the rain poured down in sheets, filling our dinghy in a matter of hours and drenching us to the bone on our hourly checks.

We’ve been checking our lines every hour since 4 pm yesterday, while alternating watches of 3 or 4 hours. Thankfully everything has held fast and there’s been no drama to report. Around 6 pm today we gave up the line checks because it became too windy to go outside, so the plan is to stay down below and continue doing watches, play a little Scrabble and try unsuccessfully to read books until the storm passes. (Ryan has pointed out that this is probably not the best time for me to be reading My Ship is So Small by Ann Davison, the story of a woman who lost her husband and their boat in a storm and survived to become the first woman to solo sail across the Atlantic. He may be right.)

The book seemed like a good idea yesterday, when it was more exciting than terrifying to be holed up listening to the winds whip up to a tame 10-20 knots and it was clear we were safe as anything on our mooring. It was fun in that way that riding a rollercoaster is fun – you tingle with fear, but you have confidence in the equipment, so you’re not worried.

The slightly boring part was when we were doing hourly watches while the other slept, or we were both awake and struggling to concentrate on anything for any amount of time while we tracked Sandy’s path towards us. I kept thinking about this forced hiatus in my marathon training – I’m not sure Ryan would tolerate me running back and forth inside the cabin, as it’s only about 20 feet long. But give me a few more hours and I might try it.

As boring as it was, yesterday’s log looks something like this:

  • 4:00 pm – heavy rain, wind 12-15 knots, Ryan sleeping, cats sleeping on Ryan
  • 6:00 pm – heavy rain, wind 10-15 knots, Ryan sleeping, cats wrestling
  • 8:00 pm – heavy rain, wind 10-15 knots, cats sleeping, retrieved Scrabble piece from bilge, Note: bilge pump might not be working?
  • 11:00 pm – heavy rain, wind 17-22 knots, Tasha wins Scrabble!, water in bilge going nowhere, removed stuck joker valve from bilge pump with a hacksaw (pressure might be damaging pump?), bilge pump working again

It continued pretty much like that, except getting even more boring, until 6 am this morning when the gusts started hitting 35-45 knots.

If I could have my way, I’d happily be bored with nothing to write about until Wednesday morning when we ship out of here in one piece and I get let out of my cage for a run.

To all of you on land and sea: I wish you a safe harbor and a boring few days ahead.

Tasha, drenched from checking the lines

Ryan, bailing out Mighty Mouse

The “what ifs”: Preparing for Hurricane Sandy

The universe must be worried that I won’t have enough to write about if we just sail smoothly from port to port, all the way down to the Bahamas. So she whipped up Hurricane Sandy to throw at us to see if we learned anything from last year’s fiasco with Hurricane Irene.

This time we knew Hurricane Sandy was coming and we’d been watching the weather forecasts carefully to judge which side of the Chesapeake Bay we should be on when she hits, which by all accounts is the west side.

In hindsight, we probably shouldn’t have left Annapolis Friday morning, but we were antsy to get going since we’d already been there two days longer than planned, and we knew we had another 24-30 hours to get south before we would be forced to wait out the storm. So, foolhardy or not, we made the decision to sail overnight to Norfolk, VA, then changed our plan at dusk when fog appeared on the forecast, and instead pulled into Solomons Island, Maryland and anchored. (Our new Rocna 20 worked a treat!)

Our ZyGrib weather charts showed that winds were going to start kicking up Saturday night and worsen until Tuesday night, so we made the decision to check out Solomons’ marinas in the morning to see if they were suitable for docking in a hurricane.

Last year, during Irene, we had no idea what to do, except we knew we needed a good, protected river to go up. So we made a dash from Block Island to the Connecticut River, and got lucky enough to meet a well-worn sailor named Glenn in Old Saybrook, at the mouth of the river, where we tied up after dark, soaking wet and nauseous. Glenn came out to help us tie up and gave us some valuable advice about where to go to upriver, what he does in North Carolina during a hurricane, and gave us phone numbers of people who could help us decide what to do with Hideaway, since he’d already done the research himself.

Back then, we made the decision to haul Hideaway and leave her in Essex, Connecticut for a week, since this was cheaper than keeping her on a slip (and because our boat insurance offered to pay for half the cost of the haul).

But this year is different – we live on our boat, and we don’t want to haul her if we don’t have to. And looking at the wind patterns for Monday and Tuesday coming through Solomons Island, the forecasts show a maximum of 30-35 knot winds where we are, though they’re showing 60-65 knot winds out on the Atlantic. We’re pretty sure we can withstand 30-35 knot winds on a mooring and we’re definitely not going out to the Atlantic.

But the debate over what to do to prepare for Hurricane Sandy seemed to have us flipping back and forth between the “what ifs” similarly to last year:

  • If insurance pays for half of the cost of hauling because statistics show that boats fare better out of water, then shouldn’t we just haul?
  • If the wind is going to get up to 30-35 knots in the creek, then a mooring with a 500 lb. mushroom anchor (like the ones at Zahniser’s Yacht Club) should hold us just fine. Right?
  • But what if we get swells up to 10 feet? Will the moorings hold?
  • Other cruisers are here on moorings and they’re a similar size to us. They must know what they’re doing.
  • Oh wait, some people are leaving. Why? Where are they going?
  • What are those people on anchor doing? Should we anchor? No, this is a terrible time to test our anchor.
  • Maybe we should get a slip – that might be safer than being on a mooring. Plus, the moorings are near shallow water; if we break loose, we’ll run aground.
  • But if we’re tied down to the docks, we’ll get bashed around and risk worse damage than on a mooring.
  • What about all the boats docked near the moorings? If the swells are bad, will the docks hold all those boats? What happens if those docks float away? The pilings are short, and we’re only a few feet away.
  • Why won’t the dockmaster give us any advice? He just keeps saying he isn’t responsible for whatever happens.

In the end, we decided to take a mooring and once the decision was made, we spent the entire day taking down our sails, removing our dodger, running back-up lines to our mooring, taking our bikes to shore, siliconing our leaky portholes and covering them with plastic and duct tape (maybe not the best time for this job, but we did it), and after we heard another cruiser’s story about his dinghy flipping over in a storm and nearly losing his outboard, we decided to remove our outboard, put it in the cockpit and tie up the dinghy behind Hideaway. We also decided, though other cruisers were removing their anchors, to keep our anchor on the bow in case we broke loose from our mooring and needed to drop it. Then, once we were all set and done, we hit the local Tiki Bar for their Halloween Bash because, well, there was no point in worrying now!

Whatever happens, we’re committed to our decision. And the decision we made was one of many possible choices, none of which anyone can be sure is the best decision in this port, in this hurricane, in this situation.

So, with gusts of up to 38 knots blowing outside, we’re on board with a good many episodes of Homeland downloaded to our iPad and we’ve set up an hourly watch where Ryan and I rotate going up to check if our dinghy needs bailing out, that our lines aren’t chafing on our anchor and to log the wind speeds.

There are a good many unanswered “what ifs” at the moment, but this is an unavoidable part of any long journey. Sometimes you just have to wait out the storm and know you did everything you could do.

Hideaway no windage

Hideaway, stripped down and clear of windage.

duct tape plastic portholes

Plastic and peace sign duct tape to protect our new silicone job.

zahnisers yacht club docks

Zahniser’s Yacht Club docks – not far enough away, for my liking.

Mighty Mouse, hopefully safe behind Hideaway.

Outboard engine tied down in cockpit

Outboard engine tied securely down in cockpit.

The price of a good night’s sleep

I’m pretty sure that by the time we leave Annapolis, we’ll be broke. This place is like a boating Disneyland full of south-bound cruisers and friendly salesmen ready to make all your dreams come true…for the right price.

Before we even arrived, Ryan was in the market for a new anchor, and he was determined not to leave Annapolis without one. Having a “big, stonkin’ anchor,” as he put it, would mean not having to spend money in marinas, and it would give us the freedom and confidence to anchor wherever we wanted on our way south.

Our anchor, which we inherited with Hideaway, is a 22 lb. Danforth-style “traditional anchor” with 20 feet of chain and 100 feet of line, which has served us pretty well around the harbors of New York and New Jersey. Therefore, I wasn’t totally sure why we needed a new anchor, but according to Ryan, “no one in their right mind sails to the Bahamas with only a Danforth.” So, we were definitely buying a new anchor – we just needed to work out which of the three existing “modern” anchors to buy so we could retire our Danforth to the role of back-up anchor.

The three choices in question were the Manson Supreme, the Rocna and the Spade.

I had a lot of questions about the pros and cons of each, but the main question was why were these “modern” anchors so freakin’ big? I mean, don’t things typically get smaller as technology advances? But even as I said that, I realized if there’s anything you don’t want to be small or lightweight, it’s probably a stinkin’ anchor. I guess that’s why Ryan was doing the research, not me.

And since we were doing research, we decided to shake things up for the anchored cruisers of Annapolis by taking our Danforth over to Back Creek to see how many times we could drag anchor in a really tight space. The answer was three.

After politely watching us fumble around for over an hour, drifting closer and closer to his boat, our friendly neighbor Mike aboard Bay Tripper kindly advised us not to reverse on our anchor in such soft mud as we’re bound to drag. It seemed obvious when he said it, but it would appear we’re sometimes oblivious to the obvious.

Eventually, we started looking around at the other boats in Back Creek and we noticed a few things. 1) None of the other cruising boats had a Danforth. 2) All the other boats’ anchor lines hung straight down from their bow, which meant they had a lot more heavy chain than we did. 3) Our boat was the only one with a ton of line out, and this made the other boats nervous. We know this because Mike asked if we would kindly move a bit further away from him.

But Ryan was reluctant to put down less line because he had little faith in our Danforth. Hence why we needed to get shopping.

In the end, we spent two days visiting West Marine and a few smaller chandleries, doing our research on types and prices. West Marine was by far the most helpful, and they even offered to match any deal we could find online. So once Ryan decided to spring for the Rocna 20 (20 kg.), he showed West Marine the price offered on Defender’s web site, and they honored it.

So, why did Ryan go with a 44-lb. Rocna over a Manson Supreme or Spade (or Danforth)? Here are some of his reasons, based on his research:

  • All three “modern” anchors are known to cut into reeds and grass fairly quickly, securing a good hold in any type of anchorage, unlike the Danforth, which is really only good in mud.
  • The Manson Supreme appears to be a Rocna copycat, and statistics show it’s slightly less speedy in grabbing a hold. This wouldn’t be a dealbreaker, except it’s also only $60 cheaper than the Rocna, which wasn’t enough of a discount to bother going to the Manson if the Rocna was also available.
  • The Spade is a good $250 more than the Rocna, making price a big consideration. But, also, distributors of Spade are hard to come by, which makes us suspicious. If they’re so good, then why aren’t more stores carrying them?
  • Rocna’s current, Canadian production line of anchors have an excellent reputation. Their anchors originally started in New Zealand, but there was a period when they got a bad reputation for manufacturing poorer-quality anchors in China.
  • We had drinks with a helpful and experienced cruising couple called Dan and Jaye aboard their boat Cinderella, and they swore by their Rocna 20.

For all of these reasons, we decided to buy the Rocna, along with 94 feet of 5/16″ chain (only because they didn’t have 100 feet), 120 feet of 5/8″ line, shackles, a buoyed trip line, and a snubber.

And we bought it from West Marine in Annapolis because they bent over backwards to help us out. Aside from giving us a discount based on Defender’s prices, they also hand-delivered all this equipment to our boat because we didn’t have a car. We are definitely not in New York anymore.

So, what’s the price of a good night’s sleep? $1,100.00, apparently. And only $377 of that was the actual anchor. If you’re thinking of going into the business of robbing boats, my advice is forget the anchor – go straight for the chain.

But the hope is that this $1,100.00 will buy us hundreds, if not thousands of restful nights in free anchorages and a good many sunsets out on the open water.

Read Turf to Surf’s testimonial of the Rocna 20 anchor on Rocna’s web site.

New meaning to “leaky bladder”

I will admit (though not to Ryan) that I get great satisfaction out of fixing things on the boat. In my mind, boat repairs often equate to a better standard of living (especially if you live on your boat), even when the improvements are minor.

So, aside from those rare and overwhelming instances when the entire boat is undergoing repairs (like when we were stuck in Port Washington), I actually really enjoy sinking my teeth into one manageable project. Are you reading this, Ryan? One project…don’t get all excited now.

Unless we’re talking about varnishing, that is. Having shiny wood does not make my life better. In fact, it eats up an entire sunny day, on which I could be outside sailing, running, hiking, riding my bike or doing anything, really, that doesn’t require wasting a gorgeous afternoon spiffing up a few decorative bits of wood.

But I digress.

My project today was not varnishing; it was to fix our leaky aft water tank, the Nauta 52-gallon water bladder that led us to discovering our bilge pump didn’t work.

Our leaky aft water bladder.

I’ll also admit, though, that my first response was not to fix the bladder. It was to price up a new one as soon as we got to Annapolis. But then I learned it would cost $500 to replace what is, essentially, a big rubber bag. And that just seemed crazy. Even by New York spend-hardy standards. After all, we do have a cruising kitty to maintain now.

So, I ripped open my shirt to reveal the SHT on my chest (Super Handy Tasha, of course. What were you thinking?), put on my cape and got down to it.

Or I made a few phone calls and got through to a company called Intra, the U.S. distributor for Nauta (a French company), and asked them for some advice.

Intra suggested a dinghy repair kit for hypalon dinghys, like this one, which we picked up at a local inflatable boat shop in Annapolis. Considering the kit only cost $40, it was well worth a try.

So today, while Ryan worked with an engineer on our alternator, I set up camp on the dock of Bert Jabin’s Yacht Yard (next to some super shiny 60-foot Oysters whose owners would probably not bother to patch up an old water tank) and got down to sealing up six holes in our bladder.

The results remain to be seen (we need to wait 24 hours before using it), but I’m convinced this is our ticket to a) saving $500 and b) gaining 52 gallons of water storage. What more could I ask for (apart from maybe a 60-foot Oyster)?

Anyway, if you have a leaky water bladder, or even a leaky dinghy, this was an easy and very do-able job for even the un-handiest of folks (i.e. me).

All you need is:

  • A hypalon inflatable dinghy repair kit with enough patches to cover the number of leaks you have
  • Medium-grain sandpaper
  • A cheap, rough-bristled paint brush (cut off the bristles so they’re about an inch long)
  • Isopropyl rubbing alcohol
  • A cloth
  • A heat gun or good hair dryer

Instructions:

  • With sandpaper, rough up hypalon patch and leak area
  • Using isopropyl rubbing alcohol, clean leak area and patch. Repeat 3 times on both
  • Dab a small amount of glue (comes with the patch kit) on leak area and patch. Use brush to spread a thin layer covering entire patch and entire leak area. Wait 5 minutes to dry. Repeat 3 times on patch and leak area
  • Once glue has been applied, put patch on leak area and apply heat to patch. Be careful not to melt the water bladder itself. Use a cloth on heated area (so as not to burn yourself) to press down on patch until fully adhered
  • Let dry for 24 hours

Note: The next day, we filled up the bladder and discovered we missed one little leak. So the fix required one more patch and another 24-hour wait. But as far as we can tell, it worked! Hideaway’s bladder is no longer leaking!

One patch out of six

Super Handy Tasha and her un-leaky bladder

Just another port: Annapolis MD

Approaching Annapolis MD harbor on Sunday, Ryan was grinning like a 12-year-old boy and shouting, “We’re here! We’re here! We’re in the sailing capital of the world!” (Our little joke because we Americans love saying we have the biggest, greatest, most important of anything in the world.)

The sun was shining, our sails were set to a close reach, and I was quickly running through all the right-of-way rules in my head, as there were easily 20 sailboats we needed to avoid hitting before pulling into Spa Creek.

The last time we were in Annapolis was two years ago, when we came down to the Boat Show to drool over catamarans and 40-foot monohulls we couldn’t afford, as well as to buy nautical-themed crap. We were still new to sailing, so we bought a lot of things like plastic cups with nautical flags on them, cat food dishes with “cat” spelled out in nautical flags, and duffel bags and pillows made of recycled sails. If you own anything that says “Captain” or has an anchor on it, you can probably sympathize with boat show over-indulgence. We got it out of our system at our first show; after that, we focused on more practical things like winches, sails and navigation systems. And, okay, maybe the odd bottle opener shaped like an anchor – they’re just so irresistible!

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Ryan looks like a kid at Christmas as we pull into Annapolis.

But I never would have imagined two years ago that we would arrive to Annapolis by boat one day. Even I couldn’t help but jump up and down like a 12-year-old as we pulled in. Or maybe I was just giddy because I could finally remove my thermal underwear and ski hat. (We still aren’t far enough south, as far as I’m concerned.)

Once we were moored in Spa Creek, we awaited the arrival of some D.C. area friends who had come down for the day to pop champagne and celebrate with us. They weren’t on board Hideaway long before they asked us how long it’d been since we’d started our journey. Ryan and I automatically said, “maybe a few weeks?” Then we wondered out loud, “Wait, what day is it? Sunday? Really? We left Tuesday? That can’t be… Really?! We’ve only been gone for 5 days?!!!”

What seemed like the impossible two years ago, had only just taken us five days to achieve. What?!

So, it turns out a dream as big as sailing around the world might be little more than a bunch of smaller dreams strung together, starting with goals like get to Cape May; then get to Delaware; then get to Maryland; and eventually, get to the Bahamas…or wherever. Maybe it’s only ever about getting to the next port.

And maybe that’s really the answer to the question of how to achieve any colossal dream: if you’re feeling scared or overwhelmed, don’t worry about the big picture. Just get yourself to the next stop, whatever that may be. The rest will follow.

Approaching Annapolis, MD.

Approaching Annapolis, MD.

Hideaway in Annapolis (photo by Justin Dent)

Friends of Hideaway: Ryan Bates, Captain Ryan, Justin & Anastasia Dent

Hideaway on Annapolis city mooring (photo by Justin Dent)

Change of course: Chesapeake City, MD

One of the things I love about sailing is that change is constant.

On land I sometimes fall into a rut because of a need to feel in control. And minimizing change is one way of being in control.

But in sailing, decisions are made in reaction to an endless number of unexpected factors, which are completely out of your control and may alter your plans on a daily or even hourly basis. You may need to pull into a safe harbor because of a storm. You may have to weather the stormy seas because there’s nowhere to hide. You may have to change your sails to accommodate the wind. Or you may never get to where you’re going…

…because you found a tiki bar. With live music. Next to a free overnight dock.

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The Tiki Bar at The Deck in Chesapeake City, MD

That’s right. We had plans to sleep on anchor for the first time in Sassafras, Maryland on Saturday night, but before we even got to the end of the C&D Canal, we saw the “Free Dockage” sign in front of a lively-looking tiki bar.

Now, if we were not already accustomed to change, we might have made the terrible mistake of passing up this unique opportunity…just because we had another plan.

Luckily, that tragic possibility was over-written with a big bowl of The Deck’s famous “drunken clams,” a few red sangrias and a valiant attempt at dancing Gangnam Style to a Bryan Adams song.

To all of you kindred spirits out there: May you often be thrown off course by something unexpected and wonderful.

hideaway chesapeake city

Nothing like a free overnight dock to lure you in.

A life worth living

I really hope what they say is true — that you can judge a person’s character by their friends — because I have some of the most amazing and generous people as my friends.

Friday night, my friend Elisa came to visit us on board Hideaway, along with her husband Chris and their two adorable kids, Luke and Alice. Elisa has known me practically since birth, since we were born just 3 months apart and we grew up on the same street. This alone would have bonded us forever, but what makes her an incredible friend is her extraordinary kindness and her ability to put anyone at ease with who they are, no matter how unusual they may be.

To illustrate Elisa’s unfailing support, though we hadn’t seen each other in over a year and a half, she showed up to Delaware City with her entire family on a whim, bearing dinner, a case of beer, some hometown gossip and nothing less than total enthusiasm for what we were doing. I know she was looking around our little boat, thinking she was darned glad she wasn’t sailing away in such a tight space. But I also know she was nothing short of thrilled for us because this was exactly what we wanted.

It’s an extraordinary gift to love someone truly for who they are and not who you want them to be. And it’s a quality I admire deeply in Elisa. Perhaps because I think it’s a quality everyone should have a little more of. Including myself.

Ryan at the start of the C&D Canal

Though we had a blast entertaining our first family on board, the success of Friday night’s rendezvous meant that we didn’t quite get up at sailor’s sunrise on Saturday. But we have time to work on that as we travel south.

Before we hurried off to a new port, though, we wanted to make sure we got out for a little jog to see the C&D Canal and Delaware City’s only tourist attraction: the historic military fort. And it turns out we were in luck – we not only got to see it, but we ran straight into a battle reenactment, complete with firing cannons and period uniforms.

Fort Delaware State Park

Ryan is fascinated with quirky Americana, being the foreigner that he is, so he took this unique opportunity to quiz the guys dressed up in uniform about their unusual hobby. The Civil War soldiers were more than happy to tease Ryan about being from “the wrong side” and regale him with tales of their weekend travels to various forts around the country to reenact battles from a myriad of different time periods. We got the impression that it wasn’t the particular war they reenacted or the character they played that was important, as much as it was just to get out there and play somebody in a battle, whether it be an Indian, a Brit, a Confederate, or a Boer. And like any hobby, they had gear for everything, which they loved showing off to Ryan, who was curious enough to ask.

“It’s a hobby like any other,” said a guy dressed up like a South African Boer. “Some people dump tons of money into building model airplanes. We do this. After all, having something you enjoy doing is what makes life worth living.”

“Oh, sure, we know,” Ryan said. “Our thing is sailing.”

“Oh! Well, now that’s an expensive hobby! Do you know what ‘boat’ stands for? Break-Out-Another-Thousand,” the Boer said, laughing at his own joke.

“Yeah, well, I guess it’s just what we do.”

Delaware City hospitality

Ryan and I have been trying hard to transform ourselves into morning people so we can be like those super-humans I admire who can somehow feed their kids, go for a jog, work on their novel and fit in a full day of work, all before they’ve made and eaten their gourmet lunch.

We’re both night owls, which makes it hard to get enough sleep to ever think waking up at 6 am is sane, let alone when it’s cold and dark outside.

But yesterday we had a deadline: we needed to get to Delaware City, DE by 4 pm because we were going to have our first visitors! My childhood friend Elisa and her family were going to brave Philly’s Friday night traffic just to come see us in Delaware, which also meant this would be the first time we’d have children aboard Hideaway. I’m not sure who was more excited – me or the kids.

Because of this, I only hit my snooze button 5 times, instead of 10, and was out of bed by 7:30 am and ready to cast off at 8:15. I know, I know, that is not early. We’re working on it!

Leaving Cape May, our biggest concern was the 55-foot bridge we’d have to pass under to get to the Delaware Bay. Ryan seemed to think the height of our mast was definitely probably around 53 feet. Maybe. So we decided to have a run at the bridge during low tide, just to be safe. I was holding my breath, half covering my eyes, as we passed under the bridge…and I swear we just missed it by 2 inches. “Well, at least now we know we’re shorter than 55 feet!” Ryan said, laughing.

After that little scare, motor sailing through the Delaware Bay was fairly peaceful, except for a little excitement when we were pulled over by the Coast Guard. Charlie, the captain of our two cats, got a little confused about the protocol and tried to board the Coast Guard vessel as it pulled up alongside us. She was probably checking to see if their registration was valid. Once Charlie gave them the okay, the Coast Guard went on their way and we carried on.

Then there was the small problem of our charts showing only 1 foot of water at the entrance to Delaware City. Hideaway draws 5’6″, like many sailboats, so we were baffled as to why Skipper Bob would list a stop-off that would have us running aground. We called ahead to Delaware City Marina on the VHF radio and Tim, the super friendly dockmaster, assured us there was 7 feet of water at the entrance and the charts were wrong. Sure enough, Tim was right. We let out a little more nervous laughter as we passed over the supposed 1-foot lip and we were there – at the friendliest marina we’d been to yet.

Delaware City is the first port to remind us that we aren’t in New York anymore. Or anywhere near it. Though we liked Cape May well enough, the marina wasn’t the friendliest, which was not necessarily a problem, as it made us feel right at home. But we’ve been seeking those places that will make us feel like we’re arrived somewhere new.

Delaware City was that place – Tim, the dockmaster, came down with a neighboring live-aboard Brit to help us secure our boat and do this nifty thing where they swing the boat around to face the other direction with just one hand on the bow and a couple of line tugs. Meanwhile, Ryan and the live-aboard got to chatting about where they were from in England while Tim ribbed them about sounding “all sophisticated.” It’s one of those funny things that happens when Americans hear a British accent – they either go all goo-goo or they feel compelled to imitate the accent.

Once, Ryan asked someone for directions in New Jersey and the American helping him said, “Ooh, are you from England? I just love the English accent!” And then, in a sing-songy voice, she said, “Shall we have tea and crumpets?!” in the worst British accent I’d ever heard. And continued with, “Shall we put some shrimp on the barbie?!” clearly confusing Ryan for an Aussie. Then she grinned at us like she’d just revealed an extraordinary talent. Ryan smiled awkwardly and I cringed.

Tim didn’t do the accent, thankfully, which made me like him even more. Instead he talked us through the history of Delaware City and the C&D Canal, gave us an extensive welcome pack of information about the area and informed us that, as Boat US members, we’d only have to pay $1.80/foot for the first night and $0.90/foot for the second. Bargain! We couldn’t have asked for a friendlier welcome to the tiny little town of Delaware City. And when I say tiny, I mean we went out for a sunset run, and though we jogged up and down every single street in town, it only amounted to 3.5 miles.

But the icing on the cake, at the bargain price of $1.80/foot, was a glorious hot shower in a lovely and spacious bathroom, which put us in a good mood to await our guests.

If this is the treatment we’re in for as we move south, you won’t get me back to New York any time soon.

Ryan, Celia and Charlie somewhere on the Delaware Bay